Below is Positivity Toolbox’s collection of Quotes about Judging. This is Fiona writing and I would love to share my personal experience on the subject of judging with you.
I’ve done some serious work over the past several years attempting to reduce my judgment of others and letting people be as they are. It’s not that I was ever a major “hater” or “judger” and most of it was strictly internal; I didn’t go around expressing all my judgments. Still, I knew I was doing it.
Back before I made this commitment to lessen my judgment of others, I couldn’t help but feel like I knew something others didn’t and that there was a better way. My way has always been in choosing love over hate, peace over war, communication over silence, compliments over complaints, etc! Naturally, as we all do, I think my way is the “right” way. I also think many would agree, but the truth is, however, that regardless of what I think, I have no power to change anything but myself. Further, when I judge others, it does nothing but perpetuate an ugly habit of seeing what, in my opinion, needs to be changed, over what is already so beautiful.
So I started working on it. When I would catch myself judging someone, I had a little exercise I would do in my mind where I would (1) recognize I was making a judgment, (2) think of something good about the person or the situation. And trust me, it is always possible to muster up something good no matter the situation, but if you find it a challenge, think of the knowledge or wisdom you are acquiring from the situation. Sometimes that is easier.
After I started with this exercise, it was not long in my quest to become a less judgmental person that I realized that inevitably, when I judge someone else, I can usually turn it around to find something I am unhappy about with myself. So really, judging others, is just a reflection of my own areas of inner unhappiness. When I find that happening now, I use it as a learning experience to better myself as a human being and I work on those areas.
In turn, an awesome result of reducing my judgment of others is that I have also reduced my judgment of myself. I’ve learned to use situations as a tool for learning rather than beating myself up. Self-acceptance is a wonderful by-product of not judging.
I am not saying that you should not have opinions and by no means am I saying that anyone should tolerate abuse, accept dangerous people or situations or not change detrimental influences in their lives. Certainly a level of “judgment” or “assessment” must always be present to create a peaceful and healthy life for ourselves. Rather, this is about our day-to-day lives – less judgment and more love!
Love, Peace & Positivity,
Quotes on Judging
“Live and let live, do not judge, take life as it comes and deal with it, everything will be okay.” ~James Frey, A Million Little Pieces
“Practice not wanting, desiring, judging, doing, fighting, knowing. Practice just being. Everything will fall into place.” ~James Frey, A Million Little Pieces
”Resign your position as General Manager of the Universe.” ~Jeffrey Gitomer
“How would your life be different if…You stopped making negative judgmental assumptions about people you encounter? Let today be the day…You look for the good in everyone you meet and respect their journey.” ~Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth and Being Free
“When we are judging everything, we are learning nothing.” ~Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth and Being Free
“Judging is preventing us from understanding a new truth. Free yourself from the rules of old judgments and create the space for new understanding.” ~Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth and Being Free
“The major block to compassion is the judgement in our minds. Judgement is the mind’s primary tool of separation.” ~David R. Hamilton, Why Kindness is Good for You
“I find hope in the darkest of days, and focus in the brightest. I do not judge the universe.” ~Dalai Lama
“We should not judge people by their peak of excellence; but by the distance they have traveled from the point where they started.” ~Henry Ward Beecher
“I was raised to sense what someone wanted me to be and be that kind of person. It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else’s eyes.” ~Sally Field
“The ego feels that it must do something about these differences. It points them out, judges them, argues with them, attacks them, and tries to change them. Differences make the ego feel superior, inferior, defensive, frightened, or angry—not loving, kind, compassionate, or even curious. For the ego, differences stir up inner and outer conflict and plenty of feelings. This is the ego’s experience of relationships.” ~Gina Lake, Loving in the Moment: Moving from Ego to Essence in Relationships
“The ego doesn’t want to love as much as it wants to be right, and it tries to be right by judging others. It gets pleasure in feeling superior by judging others.” ~Gina Lake, Loving in the Moment: Moving from Ego to Essence in Relationships
“Judgements prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances.” ~Wayne Dyer
“Listening to both sides does not necessarily bring about a correct judgment.” ~Donald Rumsfield
“Before you accuse me, take a look at yourself.” ~Eric Clapton, Before You Accuse Me
“I don’t judge others. I say if you feel good with what you’re doing, let your freak flag fly.” ~Sarah Jessica Parker
“Before you judge someone walk a mile in their shoes. Then when you do, you’ll be a mile away and you’ll have their shoes.” ~Unknown
“Judge each day not by the harvest you reap but by the seeds you plant.” ~Robert Louis Stevenson
“Keep in mind that the tendency to be judgmental — toward yourself or another person — is a good barometer of how anxious or stressed out you are. Judging others is simply the flip side of judging yourself.” ~Harriet Lerner, The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self
“Love is the only mirror we must use to judge ourselves and others.” ~Bodie Thoene, A Daughter of Zion
“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.” ~Wayne Dyer
“Who are you to judge the life I live? I know I’m not perfect and do not live to be; but before you start pointing fingers, make sure your hands are clean.” ~Bob Marley
“Stop judging your life only by the failures.” ~Michelle Sagara, Cast in Silence (The Chronicles of Elantra)
“We judge others by their behavior. We judge ourselves by our intentions.” ~Ian Percy
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” ~Carl Gustav Jung
“We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done.” ~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
“If I stop judging other people, I free myself from being judged.” ~Patti Digh. Life Is a Verb: 37 Days to Wake Up, Be Mindful, and Live Intentionally
“A major advantage of age is learning to accept people without passing judgment.” ~Liz Carpenter
“Good judgment comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgment.” ~Bob Packwood
“Never look down on anybody unless you’re helping them up.” ~Jesse Jackson
“Real magic in relationships means an absence of judgment of others.” ~Wayne Dyer
“Making matters worse is people’s natural inclination to be easy on themselves, judging themselves according to their good intentions—while holding others to a higher standard and judging them by their worst actions.” ~John C. Maxwell, There’s No Such Thing as “Business” Ethics: There’s Only One Rule for Making Decisions
“I can usually judge a fellow by what he laughs at.” ~Wilson Mizner
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” ~Mother Teresa
“If someone isn’t what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.” ~Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
“‘Stop judging and start feeling,’ Lee said in class last week. ‘What would it feel like if we just accept things as they are instead of judging them?'” ~Rain Mitchell, Tales from the Yoga Studio: A Novel
“We evaluate others with a Godlike justice, but we want them to evaluate us with a Godlike compassion.” ~Sydney J. Harris
“Because it strikes me there is something greater than judgement. I think it is called mercy.” ~Sebastian Barry, The Secret Scripture
“Our judgements judge us, and nothing reveals us, exposes our weaknesses, more ingeniously than the attitude of pronouncing upon our fellows.” ~Paul Valéry Flametree
“Except among those whose education has been in the minimalist style, it is understood that hasty moral judgments about the past are a form of injustice.” ~Jacques Barzun
“Judging your early artistic efforts is artist abuse.” ~Julia Cameron, The Artist’s Way
“We are all inclined to judge ourselves by our ideals; others by their acts.” ~Harold Nicolson
“Great Spirit, help me never to judge another until I have walked in his moccasins.” ~American Indian Proverb
“I look to a day when people will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.” ~Martin Luther King, Jr.
“The highest form of human intelligence is to observe yourself without judgement.” ~Jiddu Krishnamurti
“Nothing will destroy creativity thought faster than judging the value of the idea on the spot.” ~Wendy Oldfield, Caffeine for the Creative Team
“Make no judgements where you have no compassion.” ~Anne McCaffrey
“Be curious, not judgmental.” ~Walt Whitman
“You’re going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words at all the right times. But in the end, it’s always their actions you should judge them by. It’s actions, not words, that matter.” ~Nicholas Sparks, The Rescue
“Do onto others as you would want done onto you.” ~Unknown
“Understand before you pass judgement. But how do you pass judgement once you have understood?” ~Laurent Fignon, We Were Young and Carefree
“I don’t judge people by their sexual orientation or the color of their skin, so I find it really hard to identify someone by saying that they’re a gay person or a black person or a Jewish person.” ~Diana Ross
“You can’t depend on your judgment when your imagination is out of focus.” ~Mark Twain
“I try not to live my life worrying about what others think. A core spiritual quality is nonjudgment, which is not just about not judging others, but also not living your life worried about others judging you.” ~Deepak Chopra, Gotham Chopra, Walking Wisdom: Three Generations, Two Dogs, and the Search for a Happy Life
“One cool judgment is worth a thousand hasty counsels. The thing to do is to supply light and not heat.” ~Woodrow Wilson
“Who am I to judge?” ~Common Saying
“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.” ~Paulo Coehlo
“We still seek to solve conflicts with ‘judgement’ instead of designing the way forwards.” ~Edward De Bono, Think!
“Judge a tree from its fruit, not from its leaves.” ~Euripides
“Judge a man by his questions rather than by his answers.” ~Voltaire